Child Sex Abuse – Helping a Child Who Has Been Sexually Abused
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Unfortunately, child sexual abuse is not uncommon. If you find out a child has been sexually abused, it’s important to ensure the child feels safe before determining how to help them. You can call a helpline, utilize helpful resources, or contact an attorney for legal advice.
Whether you’re helping a child after they suffered sexual abuse or you’re now an adult survivor, it’s critical to understand the symptoms of child sexual abuse, its long-term effects, and how to help overcome the resulting trauma.
WHAT IS CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE?
Child sexual abuse includes many different types of sexually abusive acts done to children, but the US Centers for Disease Control and Prevent (CDC) specifically defines child sexual abuse as “any completed or attempted (non-completed) sexual act, sexual contact with, or exploitation (i.e., noncontact sexual interaction) of a child by a caregiver.”
Child sexual abuse takes many different forms, including:
Commercial exploitation of children
Masturbation in the presence of a minor
Force exposure to pornography
Taking unwanted sexual images (i.e., filming or photography)
HOW OFTEN DOES CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE OCCUR?
Child sexual abuse is common in the United States and around the world. In 2016 alone, Child Protective Services (CPS) found significant evidence to support that 57,329 children were victims of sexual abuse. CPS further substantiates they receive a claim of child sexual abuse every 9 minutes, making this type of abuse a widespread problem throughout the country.
Both boys and girls can be child sex abuse victims. Statistics show one in nine girls and one in fifty-three boys under 18-years-old experience sexual abuse or assault. Additionally, 91-93% of child sex abuse victims know the perpetrator, with 34% of perpetrators being family members, 59% being acquaintances, and only 7% being strangers.
Child Sex Abuse Victim Rate
Percentage of Abuser Relationship
Where Does Child Sexual Abuse Happen?
Child sexual abuse can happen anywhere the perpetrator has access to the child, including:
As mentioned, 91-93% of child sex abuse victims know the perpetrator. These perpetrators can be older siblings, parents, grandparents, or family friends. If you find out that a family member sexually abused your child, you might feel understandably angry or conflicted. It’s vital to manage those emotions appropriately and prioritize the safety of your harmed child.
Children sexually abused by a family member might keep the abuse a secret due to a lack of understanding, shame, or a promise not to tell. Regardless, sexual abuse can cause long-term, detrimental effects, so it’s essential to know the warning signs to get your child help immediately. Keep reading for more information about signs and symptoms of child sexual abuse.
Child sex abuse also occurs at the hands of strangers or known perpetrators during a child’s everyday activities. Commonly, parents and guardians place adult figures outside of the child’s family in trusting positions, such as church clergymen, coaches, and teachers, making children susceptible to abuse. The following are out-of-home places where child sexual abuse can happen:
In all situations where you trust another adult to care for your child, it’s critical to know the warning signs of child sexual abuse to protect your child, stop the abuse, and help your child heal.
Warning Signs & Symptoms of Child Sexual Abuse or Molestation
Sometimes, it’s difficult to spot the warning signs of child sex abuse. Perpetrators often take measures to prevent the child from disclosing the abuse. Often, though, you can observe certain physical, behavioral, and emotional signs.
Physically, if your child has a sexually transmitted infection (STI), it’s likely they may have been the victim of child sexual abuse. If you notice any signs of trauma in the genital area, such as bleeding, bruising, bloody sheets, underwear, or clothing, those are potential signs of molestation.
You might also notice behavioral changes, including:
Emotional signs of child sexual abuse include:
WHAT TO DO AFTER A CHILD TELLS YOU THEY’VE BEEN SEXUALLY ABUSED
If your child tells you they’ve been sexually abused, or if you have good reason to believe or discover your child has been sexually abused, you must convey messages of love and support to your child. You can do this by emphasizing your love for them and letting them know what happened was not their fault. Then, take action to show them you will do everything you can to keep them safe.
5. Protect them. Tell your child they’re safe, and you’ll protect them from future harm. It’s crucial to restore safety in your child’s life following child sex abuse, which can cause a child to lose faith in their caregivers’ ability to protect them. Create a plan with other adults caring for your child to eliminate unsupervised contact with the abuser or other potential abusers.
6. Emphasize that it’s not the child’s fault. Your child needs to understand that what the abuser did was wrong, and their harmful behavior must stop. Reassure your child they’re not to blame in any way – not for causing it, not for not stopping it, and not for not telling you about it until now. Shame and self-blame are common reactions for child sexual abuse victims, so let your child know as many times as they need to hear that the abuse is not their fault.
7. Get help. In addition to medical care for physical injuries, it’s vital to help your child get help from a mental health professional specializing in child sexual abuse. Therapy can help victims recover from trauma, and many communities have support groups and centers for victims.
WHERE TO FIND HELP FOR VICTIMS OF CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE
Many people attempt to solve or deal with child sexual abuse at home without getting help. There are many resources and forms of aid that can help you and your child during this difficult time. You might also opt to contact a law firm with child sex abuse experience to help determine your rights or find organizations that can further assist you and your child.
Available resources include:
National Sexual Assault Telephone Hotline: This hotline routes you to a local RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) affiliate organization, determined by the first six digits of your phone number. Call 1-800-656-HOPE (1-800-656-4673) to connect with a trained staff member in your area who can provide you with confidential support. Staff can also help you find a local health facility equipped to assist survivors of sexual assault.
The Center for Family Justice: This 24/7 hotline provides free and confidential services with access to counselors. They’re available to help anyone during a crisis and to speak with you about suspected abuse or abuse that already happened.
Also, seek a therapist’s help. Therapists who specialize in sexual abuse can help guide you and your child through this traumatic experience. Therapy for families impacted by child sexual abuse can assist with the healing process. Therapy sessions might include individualized sessions for the child and yourself or family treatment sessions. Different forms of therapy during this time can be beneficial to you and your family.
Finally, report the abuse to the reporting number for your state. You can find state child abuse and neglect reporting numbers here.
LONG-LASTING EFFECTS OF CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE OR MOLESTATION
Children who are victims of child sexual abuse are at a higher risk for psychological issues, manifesting in physical ways. Common lasting effects include anxiety and depression. These mental health conditions can cause the victim to feel down constantly, affect their eating and sleeping habits, and even lead to suicidal thoughts and suicide. Child sexual abuse victims have an increased risk of chronic anxiety, panic attacks, or the onset of various phobias.
Another long-term effect directly related to the abuse is poor self-esteem and low self-worth. Children often feel guilty or ashamed, leading them to believe they were at fault for the abuse. Other long-term effects include denial, substance abuse issues, and lack of emotional commitment to sexual or romantic relationships.
Studies show that child sexual abuse victims advancing into adulthood are:
- More likely than non-victims to experience severe mental health problems
- Around four times more likely to struggle with drug abuse and suffer from PTSD
- About three times more likely to develop major depression
HOW TO PREVENT CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE
Child sex abuse can happen to any child regardless of race, socioeconomic status, religion, gender, or culture. While there is no guaranteed way to prevent child sexual abuse, parents and guardians can take steps to reduce the potential risk of their child being sexually abused. Ways to prevent child sexual abuse include:
Speaking to your child about their body and important boundaries. Teach your child that no one has the right to touch them or make them uncomfortable and help them recognize when something is not right. Talk to your child about their body parts and let them know to come forward if something happens that violates those parts or their right to feel safe. Your child needs to understand that “private parts” are not for everyone to see, touch, or even talk about in an inappropriate manner.
DO I NEED A LAWYER?
A child sex abuse attorney can help child abuse victims seek payment for damages resulting from harm. This compensation can help the trauma survivor receive counseling or care they may need. Find a lawyer specializing in laws regarding child sexual abuse and who knows how to make a victim feel comfortable enough to overcome the emotional hurdles it takes to get to the point of disclosing their abuse.
Steps to Filing a Claim
Criminal and civil lawsuits differ in their purpose. A criminal lawsuit is meant to punish the abuser, while a civil lawsuit is intended to compensate the child sexual abuse victim. If you or your child are victims of child sexual abuse, you can file a claim and potentially receive compensation. Many states extended the time limit when a victim can file a civil suit, including New York per the New York Child Victims Act.
To pursue legal action and ensure you have a valid claim for damages, you must prove:
- The abuse took place when you or your child was under 18
- The abuse happened in the state where you are bringing the lawsuit
- You are currently under 55 years old.
- You have not already received legal compensation for the abuse.
Steps for filing your claim include:
You need to consult with a child sexual abuse law firm or attorney who can represent you when filing your lawsuit. A lawyer can help determine if you have a valid case and whether to file in federal or state court. Remember, everything you disclose to a lawyer is confidential, so it’s crucial to include all relevant facts.
After discussing your case with your lawyer, counsel, or associated law firm, they will draft and file a complaint on your behalf. The complaint includes the details of your injury and relevant damages. This document also describes how the perpetrator (the defendant in the case) caused the harm, establishes that the court has the capacity to decide on the case, and asks the court for relief (i.e., compensation or another legal recompense). The complaint is served on the defendant, who then has the opportunity to respond.
After the plaintiff files the complaint and the defendant files an answer or counterclaim, the lawyers will then proceed to discovery. Discovery is the part of the process where the lawyers gather as much information as possible to support their respective client’s cases. A child sex abuse lawyer knows what evidence to secure to help support your claim.
If the parties do not settle, then the case advances to trial. The lawyers will present the evidence on behalf of their respective clients (i.e., the plaintiff and the defendant) and potentially call witnesses to testify.
Depending on the trial type, the judge or a jury deliberates and determines a verdict.
If either party does not agree with the verdict, they can appeal the decision, and the appeals court will review the case to ensure errors of law do not exist. An appeals court does not re-hear or re-try the facts or evidence.
WHO CAN SUE IN A CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE LAWSUIT?
Both the child sexual abuse victim and the child’s legal caregiver (e.g., birth parents or legal guardians) can sue for child sexual abuse. If the child is under eighteen, the parents or guardians typically represent the child in the lawsuit or file on their behalf. Parents or guardians can sue the perpetrator for physical, mental, emotional, and other harm stemming from the abuse. They can also potentially sue for their own mental or emotional trauma or distress directly related to the abuse.
Adults who were sexually abused as a child can also potentially file a claim. Every state has different laws governing time limits to file a lawsuit for child sexual abuse. It’s important to speak with a lawyer to determine if the statute of limitations has run out on your particular claim.
Rights of Adult Survivor of Child Sexual Abuse
Adult survivors of child sexual abuse may have the right to file a lawsuit. Survivors can still seek justice in many states’ court systems. While each state has different laws, many recognize the trauma adult survivors faced in the past, preventing them from disclosing the abuse until adulthood, sometimes even decades after the abuse happened. These adult survivors have the right to receive compensation for their trauma.
SEXUAL ABUSE LAWS & CHANGES IN CLAIM WINDOW PERIODS
California passed its own California Child Victims Act and allowed child victims of sexual abuse to file lawsuits until the age of 40. Under this law, survivors also have a three-year “look-back window,” as of January 2020, which allows a victim to bring a claim three years after the statute of limitations has tolled. This look-back window allows courts to triple the amount of damages victims can recover if they can show that a cover-up was involved in the abuse. This is especially relevant to those survivors who fell victim to child sexual abuse in California during participation in churches, boy scouts, schools, and sports leagues.
The window for child victims of sexual abuse to file a child sexual abuse lawsuit in New York opened two years. The New York Child Victims Act allows victims to pursue claims until the victims’ 55th birthday, which enabled more than 4,000 victims to come forward and file claims. When Governor Andrew Cuomo first passed the Act, the deadline was initially in August 2020. The extension allows more victims to come forward to receive compensation. This legislation provides a pathway for victims to seek justice, even if the abuse happened decades ago.
In Washington D.C., legislators passed the 2018 Sexual Abuse Statute of Limitations Amendment Act, which allows victims of child sexual abuse who are now adults to file a lawsuit until May 2021. This Act also allows victims to commence a suit within two years after the statute of limitations has run out.
In October 2019, North Carolina legislators passed the Sexual Assault Fast Reporting and Enforcement Act (SAFE Act). Any person who was abused as a child and was previously barred by the statute of limitations can file a lawsuit until December 31, 2021.
Child sexual abuse is a terrible act with devastating outcomes, affecting many children throughout the world. It’s essential to understand the warning signs of children suffering from sexual abuse and the long-term effects the abuse can have on the victims even as they progress to adulthood.
Remember, if your child experiences sexual abuse, you must reassure them it’s not their fault and that you’ll protect them. Many resources exist to help you and your child through this difficult time. If you were the victim of child sexual abuse years ago, you still have rights and may be entitled to compensation.
At Herman Law, we have experience with child sexual abuse laws, and our attorneys can help determine if you can file a claim. Contact us now for a free consultation. You do not have to go through your trauma alone. We are here to help guide you through the legal processes so you can focus on healing.