What is Grooming and Why Does it Make Child Victims Compliant?

Most children are abused by somebody they know. Grooming refers to actions or behaviors that are used by the predator to coerce the victim into complying with the abuse. Predators often use gifts, special attention, and other manipulative tactics to take advantage of children and earn their trust. It can occur in various settings, including online, in person, and through other means of communication. Examples of grooming could be gaining access to and isolating the victim keeping secrets desensitizing to touch and discussion of sexual topics. It is important for parents to speak with their children and create a safe place for them to ask questions and encourage open lines of communication. As a result of this grooming behavior, children often become what we refer to as compliant victims. Children cannot consent however they can be manipulated into participating in the acts of sexual abuse. The sexual acts can feel good physically, which makes the abuse very confusing for the child. Children often feel guilty or like they have done something wrong, which is why it can be so difficult to talk about. However, it is important for victims to understand that it is not their fault. They did nothing wrong. No child’s a match for any adult predator.